It comes with all types of love, whether you love an animal, a family member, a friend, or a romantic partner. All love, even if it ends only in death, causes pain, and that's ok. It's ok that it hurts and that you're sad. Being sad is ok, it really is. It doesn't mean you will never be happy again, it means you're sad right now.
The reason I am choosing to write this tonight is because a relationship I was very invested in just ended. I'm sad, angry, and hurt. I am not, however, crushed. Back before I figured out how to love myself, I used relationships as validation. I needed another person to focus on and care for or I could not be happy because I couldn't stand just being me. Now, I know that I'm special without needing another person to tell me so. Instead of taking the relationship's end as proof that I am unworthy of love, I can see the true, and very valid reasons behind it. I'm sad that it's over, but I know I am going to be ok and that I am still loveable. I've never been able to do that for myself before.
This is one of the things learning to love yourself does. It helps you deal with pain in a healthy way instead of being crushed underneath it.
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